John Gottman – The Science of Trust and Betrayal

World renown relationship expert, Dr. John Gottman’s newest research reveals the dynamics of betrayal and how to safeguard (or heal) your relationship. Based on this research, Dr. Gottman will discuss his new theory of how to conceptualize “trust” and “betrayal” using interdependence game theory during this recording. Trust and betrayal metrics here are not personality traits, but characteristics of daily interaction processes.

Join Dr. Gottman as he presents practical flowcharts for how couples build trust and loyalty, versus how couples build distrust and betrayal. The social skill of “emotional attunement” will be described precisely. New strategies for preventing distrust and betrayal, and strategies for healing from betrayal will be presented. During this presentation, these concepts will be illustrated from actual cases.

The Science of Trust and Betrayal Objectives

• Describe the fundamental process for building or eroding trust.
• Explain the fundamental process for building loyalty or eroding loyalty.
• Discuss the broad outlines of a three-phase therapy for healing from betrayal.

The Science of Trust and Betrayal Outline

Gottman Research and Methods

• Previous work with couples
• Basic research and intervention research
• What predicts divorce

The Sound Relationship House Theory and the 7 Principles for Making Relationships Work

The Science of Trust

• Trust and Betrayal
• Why do people have affairs?
• Does Trust matter?

What is “Trust”?

• “ATTUNE”ment
• Major research finding on Trust

Changing Distrust to Trust – Therapeutic Tools

• Gottman-Rapoport Exercise
• Dreams Within Conflict
• Aftermath of a Fight
• Guide to Great Listening
• The Stress-Reducing Conversation

Betrayal

• Negative CL-alts begin the cascade toward Betrayal
• What is a Negative CL-ALT
• Case example
• Gottman-Rusbult-Glass Cascade toward Betrayal (24-Steps)

Healing From An Affair

• Gottman Atone, ATTUNE, Attach therapy

Who is The Science of Trust and Betrayal for

Psychologists, Counselors, Social Workers, Case Managers, Addiction Counselors, Marriage & Family Therapists, Nurses, and other Mental Health Professionals

About John Gottman

John Gottman, Ph.D., is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Washington, where he established what the media called, “The Love Lab,” and conducted much of his award-winning research on couple interaction and treatment. Dr. Gottman has studied marriage, couples and parent relationships for nearly four decades. He has authored or co-authored 119 published articles as well as 44 books, including: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, The Relationship Cure, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, and How You Can Make Yours Last, Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting, And Baby Makes Three and The Marriage Clinic.

World renown for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. Gottman’s research has earned him numerous national awards, including: Four five-year-long National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Awards; The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy Distinguished Research Scientist Award; The American Psychological Association Division of Family Psychology Presidential Citation for Outstanding Lifetime Research Contribution; The National Council of Family Relations 1994 Burgess Award for Outstanding Career in Theory and Research.

Dr. Gottman, together with his wife, Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute, which provides clinical training, workshops, services, and educational materials for mental health professionals, couples, and families. He is also the co-founder and Executive Director of the Relationship Research Institute which has created treatments for couples transitioning to parenthood and couples suffering from minor domestic violence.

Dr. Gottman has presented hundreds of invited keynote addresses, workshops, and scientific presentations, to avid audiences around the world including Switzerland, Italy, France, England, Israel, Turkey, South Korea, Australia, Canada, Sweden and Norway. A wonderful story-teller and expert, Dr. Gottman has also appeared on many TV shows, including Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, and he has been written up in numerous print articles, including Newsweek, The New York Times, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, Men’s Health, People, Self, Reader’s Digest, and Psychology Today.

Drs. John and Julie Gottman currently live on Orcas Island, near Seattle, Washington. They conduct weekly and intensive couples therapy sessions, provide small group retreats, teach workshops and clinical trainings and give presentations and training workshops around the world.

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